“It’s one thing to believe in sacrifice, it’s another thing to live with it.”
I heard this quote while watching Madam Secretary, a US drama series. The sentence just hits the spot. I was reminded of another quote that is in the same vain; “We all love to say that Love is patient, until Love requires us to be patient”. It’s a common theme in life isn’t it? I have had and am still enduring some form of it – the drag of the dichotomy of the heart and the mind. It is one thing to know something to be true with the mind or brain or head, it is another to have gone through and know by experience.
A few years back, I was reading The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis and he referred to Saint Augustine’s Confessions (a book I hope to finally read sometime soon). In the book, Augustine reeling from the loss of someone dear to him had denounced love (for anything or being other than God). He said “this is what comes of giving your heart to anything but God. All human beings pass away. Do not let your happiness depend on something you may lose. If love is to be a blessing, not a misery, it must be for the only Beloved who will never pass away”.
And C.S. Lewis commented on his statement stating that it was perhaps as a result of his earlier affiliation with stoicism and whatnot. He then went on to make some profound statements that I believe and know to be true. While his prognosis on Augustine’s affiliation with stoicism may have some merit, I think the pain he felt had much more to do with it. Having recently felt the pain and the strong tug to make such a statement and live in its direction, I have reconsidered Lewis’s conclusion on the reason for Augustine’s statements. The tug to never be in such a position again is so strong. However, Love is supreme and this is one of its costs.
There is no escape along the lines St. Augustine suggests. Nor along any other lines. There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even an animal. – C.S. Lewis (The Four Loves)