Musings #4

“Man will never learn. He is here but for a short time.”

A seemingly wise and gentle soul said this to me as he talked about the history of his country, and how in times past, Kings and armies having surmounted the great mountains in his country left their marks on the rocks they passed by.

“Man is naught but dust, I know he knows it.”
That was the first line that came to mind.
But then, back to the story; isn’t that what we are told and sold – leaving marks on the sands of time. The men of the world say it, and it is proclaimed even louder in some places of worship.
“Daddy Pastors”: the struggle for domination and control – Read here
I came across this article sometime last month and the following paragraph from it struck me so much that I had to save it in hopes that I would revisit it some other time. I am still yet to put down my thoughts on all that was discussed in the post, but while going through the paragraph again, I was reminded about C-Slake’s last verse on ‘PowerDigm’ (listen/download here) and how he described the Nigerian situation similarly – between her leaders and the citizens. Certainly something to give a thought too.

“Yet the propensity to idolatry in some has, throughout history, been aggravated by the penchant for domination in a few. It is a case of finding a willing victim for a ready criminal. The attraction is almost irresistible, and is akin to a sadist finding a masochist.”
“You’ve got to be vulnerable if you want to love at all; that’s real.” – S.O
This is off S.O’s new album titled ‘So It Ends’. It’s one of my favourites of 2015. Maybe I’d write a post on that later on. Do you have any seemingly obscure new music choices that I might check out?

J sent me the above image earlier this month, and it reminded me of CS Lewis’ commentary on one of St Augustine’s thoughts in his book – The Confessions of Saints Augustine. The following are excerpts from his book – The Four Loves.

“In words which can still bring tears to the eyes, St Augustine describes the desolation in which the death of his friend Nebridius plunged him (Confessions IV, 10). Then he draws a moral. This is what he comes, he says, of giving one’s heart to anything but God. Do not let your happiness depend on something you may lose. If love is to be a blessing, not a misery, it must be for the only Beloved who will never pass away.”

“I think that this passage in the Confessions is less a part of St Augustine’s Christendom than a hangover from the high-minded pagan philosophies in which he grew up. It is closer to Stoic ‘apathy’ or neo-Platonic mysticism than to charity. We follow One who wept over Jerusalem and at the grave of Lazarus, and, loving all, yet had one disciple whom, in a special sense, he ‘loved’.”

“There is no escape along the lines St Augustine suggests. Nor along any other lines. There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable.  Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping your heart intact, you must give your heart to no one…But in that casket – safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, and irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy , or at least to the risk of tragedy is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”

To love at all is to be vulnerable. – CS Lewis

Of course, it goes without saying that he is referring to the love of man – by man.


  1. KerryTosan · February 8, 2016

    Andy made that point too. Vulnerable isn’t bad (it’s sc*ry); I think I’m warming up to it.

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  3. Tony Michele · February 8, 2016

    Indeed, it is. 👍🏾
    Perhaps, that’s one of the things that makes it even greater.

    Thanks for reading and commenting Kerry 🙂 ✊🏾

  4. hrh7 · February 12, 2016

    To love at all is to be vulnerable.- CS Lewis.
    To be vulnerable is to hurt and badly- Obianuju Ayalogu.
    I still love. I just don’t show it that much. I like this article.

  5. Tony Michele · February 12, 2016

    Haha. The very definition of vulnerability includes that possibility.
    Thank you!

  6. Yemie · February 29, 2016

    Its pretty obvious from those lines that St. Augustine did not only feel a deep sense of loss that he perhaps never got past nor came back from; but he also experienced some form of transformation as is seen in the wake of his friend’s passing and who would blame him? ‘Affection’s responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives as C.S Lewis affirms! Moreover, ‘friends can be said to ‘ fall in like’ with as much a profound thud as romantic partners fall in love’- Letty Cottin Pogrebin!

    I totally get that we may at some points lose our objects of affection, but to say that we won’t open up our hearts to the possibility of love cause we feel the intense urge…need, to protect ourselves and shield our hearts from getting broken is a really tall order!

    ‘No man’s an Island’ and though our Maker’s created a certain hollow in each of our hearts which no mortal can ever fill, there’s also that other vacuum specifically designed to be filled by mortals…friends, lovers and the likes that yearns to be filled! 😊😄

    That quote by Broderick’s off-of-the-charts insane! One, of many unreasonable expectations nursed by us mortals right before disappointments set in; when expectations fall short as they always, rightly should! 😈😆

    Beautiful musings TM, only ’em with gaping holes in their hearts….they, who are missing a human heart; can escape the pangs of being vulnerable! I mean, even the world’s most vilest villian…Adolf Hitler; had a love interest, she; in whose hands he was putty and who somehow; made his stone cold heart melt and turn flesh! 😊😄
    Pay no mind to St. Augustine, that was hurt and pain talking; not at all him by golly! 😂

  7. Tony Michele · February 29, 2016

    😂😂. Indeed, pain and hurt can make us do things.

    Interesting quote by CS.

    Thank you! I always enjoy and look forward to your mini, informal epistles complimented by emojis 😁✊🏾.

  8. Yemie · February 29, 2016

    Well! Well!! Well!!! What can I say TM besides that perhaps, you do know me wayyy too well and I’ll have you know I get by ’em ‘epistles’ and ’emojis’! My bad! 😣My bane! 😭 My vice! Dayum!!! 😂😂😂

  9. Tony Michele · February 29, 2016

    😂😂. It’s a good vice. 🙏🏾

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